I have noticed that we all want to be appreciated, admired, adulated when we do something good. But when we do something bad we like people to understand that its not big, show consideration. Or when we are not feeling well, we like to be cared about, we like to be pampered, we like to cheered up.
Why is it so? I know you are thinking its completely natural to think so. But why is it natural? natural because everyone behaves like / expects that?
Ok someone called it ego.. the self.. the intangible thing within each one of us, which expects that it be pampered,cared about,loved, shown consideration when something wrong is done etc... Its to satisfy this intangible thing, that the whole world is in this bizarre rat race... Its this intangible which is the root cause of most of the problems , but is manifested in innumerable number of ways...
Our logic or reasoning is not absolute/impartial. When your ego is hurt, its the ego that drives your logic or reasoning. So you are already seeing the problem in colored glasses, how can you ever expect your reasoning to be impartial? Ego drives the logic /reasoning to pamper itself. Its in this confused state, that most basic problems get complicated, and goes to a state where the starting point is no more important.
The solution although very difficult is conscious thinking at all times... if you can observe your thoughts with aloofness, detach yourself from the actual problem, you can see the problem as it is and not whats manipulated by your ego... Its then that u can actually solve your problem...
